Date Night during the Holidays. Sounds difficult. Getting your man to agree to more festivities sometimes can be hard as he can feel the pressure of having to please your family, stroke his boss’s ego, buy you the perfect present… All of these things can take a relationship for a bumpy ride during the Christmas season because it takes away from what really matters. Aura Avenue believes that is being with the ones you love. Below are easy fun no-pressure ideas to ease you from the noise of the season and give you the ability to make meaningful memories with your friends, family and significant other. New couples all the way to those of you who have been together since the ice age can enjoy this inspiration and hopefully find some new ideas to spark old flames. Don’t ever feel embarrassed or sorry for wanting to freshen things up; even the most sound relationships can sometimes use a little pep in their step!
Ditch the holiday party early and see the lights. We put so much stress on the ‘date night’ to go Christmas or NYE parties and rarely ever enjoy ourselves while trying to impress the boss, colleague or significant other. Why not show face for the free drinks then bust a move to make a night of your own with the man you love? Find out where the best holiday light show can be found in your town and make your way on over. Put a thermostat of hot cider or cocoa, a blanket for two and your boots in the car or a travel bag (some of you may be using Uber due to the free drink special) and head out to find the colors of the night. My favorite light show at my home in MI: Christmas Around The World & my favorite light show with my man in CA: Boat Parade of Lights. Completely different but equally amazing.
Do something you used to do as a holiday tradition when you were young. I love this idea for date night because not only does it give you something nostalgic and meaningful to do, but it also helps you and your partner to get to know each other on a deeper level. Sharing this/a part of your past can help them open up more about their own childhood and help the both of you understand one another. Celebrating St Nicholas Day was something we used to do as kids. Baking treats with my grandma, watching The Polar Express, going to night services at church, volunteering at the shelter, seeing The Nutcracker and playing Gloria in Excelsis Deo on the piano all spark memories of my childhood during Christmas.
Try something new. A cooking, painting or dance class can be found in nearly every town or city these days. These are all great new ways to find out what your significant other likes or doesn’t like. It also gives options so your man can’t say no! He has to choose from whatever activities you decide will be a best fit for you both. Sometimes we can get in the hang of doing the “same old thing” and it puts a damper on your relationship because it leaves less room for magic. If you introduce doing something new in a positive way especially during the holidays, you can keep the habit up through the following months. Who knows, he could be a great sweater knitter or gourmet cook before you know it! Also a great stocking stuffer if it can’t fit into your schedule this season.
Check your town/city chamber events calendar to get into the spirit with Tree Lighting Ceremonies, Christmas Plays, Concerts and other activities that are right out your own front door. My boyfriend and I just became members at The Mission San Juan Capistrano, one town above ours, and his parents are members at a beautiful cultural center and garden in their town. We have such a great time going to their holiday and member events. Members always have perks (don’t mind a free wine or yoga class!) and first dibs on tickets to large or private events.
Make a fire just because. Indoor, outdoor, the beach, the woods… Wherever you have access to! Just do it! Sitting by our fireplace outside is literally therapy to me and even though it’s gas-lit, I still love every time my man ‘makes a fire’ for me. Maybe it’s silly and call me old fashioned, but when my man does something for me that lights my fire (including dinner, stops at home from work during the day and talking about marriage or babies) I am in smiles all week long. Come to think of it he asked me to be his girlfriend sitting by the fireplace under the stars. We unwind so easy sitting next to it with a bottle of wine or even a stogie to share. I need to make better habit of suggesting this date idea more often.
Bake or make breakfast together! I’ll be in the kitchen cookin’ pies with my baby this season! It sounds so silly but food is the way to my heart and my man’s! I’m serious! Cooking together or making breakfast come along with some of our most intimate moments. The kitchen is our sanctuary and should always be a special place for those who want to continue to grow in their relationship. Even if you start slowly by making coffee together, you can build up to five course meals soon enough. I like to make cozy place settings at the table and light candles, turn on some John Mayer and get to chopping. Staying in Pajamas or putting them on if you are making dinner is a must!
Steal someone’s children. I am on a flight home from Denver right now after visiting my sister and her kids for Christmas and I shed a few tears in TSA when the guy looking through my suitcase (I always have something “illegal” lol) asked where my presents came from. Sharing Christmas with children is so full of true magic and belief in Santa, baby Jesus and the reason for the season, it makes my heart want to explode. Being around that joy and pure energy is incomparable. You could go sledding or to the library and they will have just as much fun. Sign up at your church for Sunday school, put yourself on care.com or babysit your niece, nephew or neighbor’s kids and you will find satisfaction and an everlasting love for the Christmas season. The only thing missing on this particular date was my man! But I know he would have loved it just as much as I did.
Have fun, laugh at the things that go wrong, and make the most beautiful memories to end the year!
Merry Christmas XOXO